Dating males with divored parents
I went out with a girlfriend in Montclair, NJ, to a fun place called Just Jakes. It was a little deceiving, sure, but I thought telling the guys I was a single mom would influence their answers—and I wanted raw thoughts.It was lovely being out sans Jack, having a cold beer at the bar, surrounded by other adults enjoying drinks, conversation, and music. I videotaped their answers, transcribed what they said, and here’s what I got: “My mom was a single mom most of my childhood, so I have tons of respect for single mothers.The crowd was a mix of college guys and young professionals. And when the topic of my work came up, I told a small group of guys that I was working on an interesting article that required me to tap real-life guys for their opinions on dating single moms. I would absolutely go on a date with a single mom and see where it could lead.I don’t have kids, but I want kids, so if she already has one or two, it would be a bonus.I would just be really cautious about getting close to the kid, because if it didn’t work out, I’d feel bad if the kid got attached, then hurt.” “I think it would be a pain.My friend dated a single mom and she was always breaking plans because of childcare issues, or suggesting he just come over and watch a movie. Maybe she’s like my friend and had a baby after just dating someone. I dated a single mom who had a lot of issues with her ex and I found that I got sucked into a lot of drama.I’m young and I want to have fun, out in the world, not be tied down to someone’s living room while her kid sleeps in the bedroom. I admire my friend for being a stand-up guy and taking care of his son, so my opinion of a woman doing the same … Also, her ex had issues with me being around his daughter because he was threatened by the relationship that was forming.Also, my friend’s ex had a kid that always wanted to sleep in his mom’s bed and that would be a problem for me. I want all the perks that come with a grown-up relationship.” “A lot of my friends are divorced and one guy even has a kid after a one-night stand.
Now before I get into the general theme of the responses, I’ll share my motivation for asking the question.I take into consideration whether my significant other’s parents have divorced.If I’m privy to the information, I also factor in when their parents married, how long they’ve been married, and how happy they appear to be together in their marriage. For a country that spends billions of dollars following the successes and failures of celebrity couples, whom we do not know behind the manufactured headlines of entertainment magazines, it seems strange that people balk at the idea of considering the effects our own parents have had/will have on our relationships. On the other hand, Kobe’s wife leaves him and we have hundreds of blogs discussing infidelity and if women are entitled to the amount of money Vanessa Bryant acquired, even though she wasn’t The risk of divorce is 50 percent higher when one spouse comes from a divorced home, and 200 percent higher risk when both of them do, says Nicholas Wolfinger, a professor of family and consumer studies at the University of Utah and author of “Understanding the Divorce Cycle: The Children of Divorce in Their Own Marriages.” – CNN Getting back to the original question, as expected, most people didn’t want the success or failure of thier parents’ marriage to act as a prerequisite for estimating their future marital success.None of these answers are a deal breaker but it is something I keep in the back of my mind. Also worth noting was how much more vocal children of divorce were in expressing their views on the issue.That is fine and I understand where you’re coming from.